On days when I'm reminiscing, I sometimes think back to my life before I became a parent. My husband and I decided to become parents rather late in life (I was 35), so I had alot of time to really enjoy life. After having that much time to dedicate to just you (and a significant other), the first year of parenthood can be a huge eye opener! The only thing I miss from my pre-parent days is free time. Knowing that free time is hard to come by these days as a parent, every once in a while, I'll give myself a little pat on the back for all the fun things I did pre-baby.
Six Things I'm Glad I Did Pre-Baby
I'm not talking about going on a babymoon or leaving work early to start nesting. I'm talking about all the fabulous things I did waaaaaay before I got pregnant.
We got to spend five entire years together, just the two of us. We both worked hard, but we always managed to spend time together every day, no matter how busy life got.
My husband has his interests and I have mine, so on the weekends, we would always allot some time where we could pursue our individual hobbies. I had a phase where I baked up a storm, another phase where I took up knitting, but in the end, I decided my true love was crafting, and I spent a crazy amount of time scrapbooking. I don't scrapbook as much now, but I keep hoping that when my son is a little older, we can scrapbook together.
Hey, if you're going to try something new, only to find out you don't love it, it's easier to do so when you're not a parent! My husband became a golf fanatic while we were living in San Diego. I started going to the driving range with him just to be with him, and before I knew it, I owned my own golf clubs and he had signed me up for private lessons. I hung in there for one year, and then I told him that I preferred scrapbooking to golfing. Maybe when we're retired, I'll give it another try.
My husband and I moved twice in the first three years we were together. First from San Francisco to Los Angeles (2003) and then from LA to San Diego (2005). I had to make a new group of friends every time we moved, but I did eventually find a great group in San Diego, and we tried to get together at least once a month, if not more often. Now that I live in Denver, if I'm having a cocktail, I'll snap a photo of my drink and post it on Facebook and I'll host an impromptu virtual happy hour with my friends in California.
This was my husband's idea. And it was the BEST idea. We joined a running club when we moved to San Diego and we met so many great people who became our good friends. The two years we were in the club, I ran two marathons and 12 half marathons.
Two years before we got pregnant, we traveled to Paris and Sao Paulo (two different trips). I don't know when we're going to be able to afford traveling out of the country again so I'm very happy we went abroad when we did.
For those of you who are now parents, what are you glad you did before you decided to have a child? And for those of you who are not yet parents (or do not plan to become parents), what fabulous things are you doing in your current days of non-parenthood?